Growing as an individual is a matter of time, persistence, and patience. It starts with finding the right person for you. Once you do that, you should accept the life given to you and strive to make it better. Finally, you should tackle each day with gratitude.
The Right Person at the Right Time
Many people fear ending up alone. They do not want to face the struggles of life without a partner, a person who can lift them in times of trouble and cherish with them the happiness of accomplishment and success.
While it is true that two brains are better than one and having someone standing by your side is a great source of motivation and hope, fear shouldn’t be the driving force behind it.
I am already 35. If I don’t find the right person soon, I might never be able to. Is there anyone out there for me? How can I have children if I haven’t met the love of my life? These and others are examples of doubts we all have to go through in life. Even so, we shouldn’t make the mistake of settling for someone who doesn’t deserve to be with us. After all, the wrong partner will do much more harm than good.
If you are looking for that special someone, then ask around and talk to your friends. Better yet, take a chance and enroll yourself in an elite matchmaking site. But be patient and wait for the right time and the right person. If he or she is indeed your soulmate, isn’t this worth the wait?
Embrace the Grind
The late, great basketball player, family man, and entrepreneur Kobe Bryant once said, “Those times when you get up early and work hard, those times when you stay up late and work hard, those times when you don’t feel like working, you’re too tired, and you don’t want to push yourself, but you do it anyway; that is the actual dream.”
If you want to embrace something in your life, if you want to value something meaningful, then value the work you put in. The journey and the struggle are what make you who you are, not the result. If you train with courage, discipline, and motivation for a competition but ultimately fail to win, you will still have the satisfaction of knowing you gave it everything you had. And that will give you peace as well as the tools you need to grow.
What makes people great is not accomplishments but the desire to accept and cherish the routine. When you have to get up at 5 in the morning, be happy, for you are chasing something. When you have to work overtime or on the weekend, don’t let this turn you cynical and bitter. Remind yourself instead that you are building resilience and inner strength.
Be Grateful for Everything
If you are reading this article, it means you are still alive. No matter what has happened in your life and what you have gone through, you are here. You are a survivor. Adversity hasn’t defeated you, and you are still standing.
Any educated person will say thank you when somebody gives them something they want. A little boy will be happy with a new toy, ice cream, or a piece of chocolate. A pretty girl will be ecstatic with a pretty dress, and an old lady will hold a hug from her grandson dear to her heart. But only a strong person will be grateful for something negative. Only a few will see despair as a trigger for an opportunity.
If you want to grow as a human being, then be grateful for everything that happens in your life. Success gives you happiness, so be grateful for it. Failure is an opportunity to learn, so also be grateful for it. And do it constantly and consistently. By doing so, you will realize how blessed you are and create a virtuous cycle to help you achieve your goals.
For those of us who don’t know where to begin, look into the negative aspects of your life and try to find a meaning to them, a silver lining. Maybe you got fired, but later on, you found a better job. Your boyfriend of 10 years dumped you, but now you are with someone better.
Life’s purpose is to leave this world a better person than the one you were when you came in. Success, money, a great career, and everything else are incidental.
So surround yourself with good people, especially the person you will one day call your spouse. Learn to embrace the grind and be grateful for everything that happens to you. As time goes by, you will start seeing changes within you, how you are becoming greater than you ever thought you could be.